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Newsletters, Fathers and Character

June 19, 2009

Email newsletters with compelling content are a easy source of quick information. The Innovative Automation monthly newsletter is a nice quick read for anyone in the automation or motion business.

One of our favorite newsletters is Michael Josephson’s Character Counts, which espouses ethics in business, sports and life. I have borrowed a post from Josephson’s Web site in honor of Father’s Day. If you’re a father, you’ll understand. Enjoy.

SPECIAL BONUS COMMENTARY: Father or Friend? 623.6

As Father’s Day approaches, I want to share an edited version of a father’s letter to his son sent to me years ago by a listener named Sergio Ferreira.

Dear Son,
When I was a teenager I wished, just as you do now, that my dad could be my best friend. However, it wasn’t until my time to be a father when I understood why my wish would never come true.

There is the big difference between a friend’s role and father’s role.

A father must provide his son constant love, economic subsistence, and an education. He must also protect and guide him, set a good example, and instill in him ethical and moral values so he may become a more responsible, self-sufficient, and compassionate human being.

A father who tries to be a best friend can’t be a real father. To be a friend is voluntary. It’s an option. To be a father is a privilege, but above all it’s a moral obligation.

My duty as a father is to give you what you need, not necessarily what you want.

When you were born, God gave me a blessing that has brought me great happiness. At the same time, he gave me a difficult mission – to be responsible for your moral development and well-being.

Some day you’ll understand the meaning of this letter. It will be one of the happiest days of your life – when you hold your first child in your arms. From that moment on, you’ll understand that being a real father is much more important than being a friend.

This is Michael Josephson wishing all fathers and their children a glorious day of mutual appreciation and understanding love.